23.5.2019 07:00 am
Our country is one of the most diverse in the world, and we need to embrace our diversity and not shy away from it
83 weeks ago, I gave birth to a beautiful human being that would be become the most important person in my life. To make sense of it, I have been someone’s mother for about 568 days now. I still remember that day like it was yesterday. I feel like a part of me did not really comprehend what was about to happen as I walked into that hospital room. I was 4cm dilated at 38 weeks, and as much as the bag was packed and we were ready to welcome her into the world, I was not mentally prepared. I get asked the question of whether or not I was scared at that time, and my response is always a consistent “no”. This is due to the fact that I was having a bit of an out of body experience. I casually went through the labor process. This is why I cried like a baby when I held my baby in my arms. Only at that point did I realize what all of this meant. I was a mother now. Now I knew love and I held it in my arms.
With the world’s focus on Meghan Markle and Prince Harry’s first child, Archie Harrison Mountbatten-Windsor it can seem like it is the only baby which was born this week. Of course, nothing could be further from the truth.
In 2016, I became a mom to a prem baby with severe reflux and colic. I suffered from postpartum depression for the first six months of my daughter’s life but my story is not all bad.
Parenthood presents us with a new reality that we have never been confronted with.We walk into a hospital as single individuals and we walk out with a plus one. We stay with the little ones for four to five months and one day we have to go back to work and this gives any parent some form of anxiety.
The recommended rate for C-sections is 10-15%, in South Africa, 26% of children born, are born via C-section. Why is it so high and why does it matter?
That first week coming home with your newborn baby brings so many emotions that it’s hard to figure out where to start. Here are a few tips to get you going…
I felt the aches and pains and went through it all, and today I sit with the very reason for those pains and she makes it all worth it.
When you are pregnant for the first time, there are lots of new things happening to your body – things that often include pain or discomfort. So how is a girl to know which pain is serious and which is not?
When you hear those earth shattering words. There is no explanation for the emotions that run through you. Dreams dashed.
Attachment parenting is quite a controversy in the parenting circles and as a parent, I can understand why. I’ve learned that parenting is about instinct and mostly winging it. There is no rule book, Only a million parenting opinions.
When it all just gets too much, how do we survive? When the world around us seems to be crashing in? We can’t breathe, feel or move… How do we crawl out of that dark hole?
I saw a post on Social Media about having a cesarean that really struck a nerve with me. And I’ve been thinking about how I can discuss the issue it dealt with in a way that honours all the varied opinions on it… but I guess there is no better way than to just be HONEST! (So here goes.)
Nobody ever said that being a mother would be easy… In fact, if we each think back to our baby showers. I’m almost positive that some mothers had a little twinkle in their eye. They knew what was coming.