2.6.2019 11:00 am
Tshego Seane gave birth 8 weeks early to a baby girl who was not breathing and the doctor told her that her new baby was not going to make it.
Tshego Seane, a mother of two boys, was pregnant with her third child - a baby girl, whom they had planned to name Siphesihle (which means Beautiful Gift in Swati). She was given this name because it was what she was in the imaginations of her parents. A beautiful gift that they were prepared to wait patiently - 40 weeks roughly - to receive.
Parenthood presents us with a new reality that we have never been confronted with.We walk into a hospital as single individuals and we walk out with a plus one. We stay with the little ones for four to five months and one day we have to go back to work and this gives any parent some form of anxiety.
As one mom on Facebook, so eloquently put it: “People say ‘well what did people do before vaccines/antibiotics/pasteurisation?’ as if that’s an argument for going natural. They died, Carol. A lot of people died.”
The reason I have tried to breastfeed for as long as possible is that I believe in the amazing benefits of breastmilk, over and above just feeding and hydrating her. It really is miraculous stuff.
When you hear those earth shattering words. There is no explanation for the emotions that run through you. Dreams dashed.
Wow, what a busy couple of months we have had. As nature would have it our kids are born in November, January, 2 in March and one in May. Sometimes it feels like I’m planning parties non-stop for 6 months of the year!
Attachment parenting is quite a controversy in the parenting circles and as a parent, I can understand why. I’ve learned that parenting is about instinct and mostly winging it. There is no rule book, Only a million parenting opinions.
I will always be is lazy – I will always lean back and let my child explore, experiment, fail, succeed, grow her imagination and discover her own boundaries.
At some point, I hope that the fantasy of parenthood that I retain will be replaced with the reality that I have come to know.
There were many aspects of ‘the good old days’ that to label not great, is being quite kind. So, what can we learn from the past?
You finally get a moment to look down and see this beautiful little face in front of you. Two closed eyes, a cute little nose and full pink lips. Wow, it takes your breath away. Absolute perfection.
I say they are my favourites, but are they really? Or am I just too exhausted to care?
Parenting can prove to be a bit more strenuous than a nine-to-five job, but being a parent is a labour of love.
Playgrounds are the only public spaces my son is free to be his weird self because the other children frankly do not care.