THE most frustrating thing for a guy is to be in the ‘friend zone’ with a special girl he has feelings for.
Getting in the zone normally occurs like this – you meet a cute girl and start hanging out together.
She enjoys your comany and laughs at your jokes. You think that she might be into you, but are too afraid to make a move.
Time goes by and you’re still only friends. Finally you decide that it’s now or never and reveal your feelings.
Then she delivers that oh-so-familiar line: ‘Let’s just be friends’.
The good news is that there are ways to get out of this zone.
Step one – keep your cool and accept the situation
Do not beg her to give you a chance, ever! She made a conscious decision to not be anything more than friends with you. Place less focus on her and more focus on yourself.
Step two – focus on self-improvement
Start looking your best. Go to the gym and keep up a healthy diet. Work on the intellectual side of things. Try to be a hot and interesting person. If you feel more confident about yourself, she will probably notice it. Girls love self- confidence and after all, the special girl you want is just a another girl.
Step three – spend time with her doing regular things
Nothing romantinc or weird. Just invite her out to do ‘friendly’ things with you. After all, this is exactly what she wanted. Go out and do the things you would do yourself anyway, like going out to buy new clothes and stuff like that.
Step four – hang out with other people and have fun
A little dose of jealousy never hurt anyone. It’s like fueling her fire with desire. Without a little portion of it, any relationship can get boring, so flirt with other women. You can be the perfect guy, but she cannot know that she ‘has’ you.
Step five – flirting
Start teasing her and giving her compliments, but avoid elaborate, sophisticated ones. It’s also a very sensual compliment. Always avoid teasing or discussing her age or weight. It can only go wrong.
Step six – use sensual tricks
Touch her from time to time, like on her arm – casually. It is difficult for shy people, but if you play it cool, almost as though it’s accidental, it can work. But always pay attention to how she responds. Moderation is the best solution for everything.
Good Luck!
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