CHEATING or infidelity tends to sneak into marriages and relationships on a day-to-day basis.
Unless one has hard evidence of the accusations, most will not admit to it and turn the situation around.
Below is a list of behaviours that would suggest one’s partner or spouse would be having an affair.
But if they have these behaviours and are not cheating, then take it as warning signs that the relationship needs help or needs to be ended.
Warning signs on cheating
• Boredom with spouse, job, children, hobbies and life in general.
• Needs danger or thrills in their life.
• Less intimacy or connection in relationship.
• Spouse has a low self-esteem.
• No signs of jealousy, no matter what you say.
• Sense of confusion about themselves.
• Spouse becomes negative or more lazy around the house.
• Spouse becomes more critical of you and picks fights more often.
• Getting defensive if infidelity or affairs are mentioned.
• More attentive than usual or working longer hours.
• Sudden interest in appearance.
• Notice charges on credit card statement that do not make sense.
• Have different scents of cologne or aftershave lotion on clothes.
• Catch partner lying about a variety of things.
• Money becomes more of an issue.
• The words ‘I love you’ are not spoken by your spouse any longer.
• Partner abandons religious faith.
• Spouse seems more secretive.
• Discover lipstick smudges on a shirt.
• Catch an STD and you have not strayed.
• When asking for reassurance about cheating, not satisfied with response.
Trust your gut feeling that there could be a chance of unfaithfulness.
If one keeps getting denial and push-back when discussing concerns with a partner, then seek professional help to sort through it, or gather hard evidence and end the relationship.
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