When we were young we used to lie about little things in the quest to gain popularity among our peers.
They call them ‘white’ lies.
Lies that don’t really hurt anyone.
“My dad bought a new BMW.”
“My grandmother’s house has a swimming pool.”
“We have KFC every day for supper.”
“Oh wow,” they would say, boosting your little ego.
Then we forgot, and sometimes you would slip up and say something that would make your friends realise you lied.
That embarrassment was the worst.
Until the next week, when you forget about the whole incident and think of more lies.
It was cute, I guess.
But I have observed a similar behaviour in adults.
We didn’t grow out of the lies and fake lives, we just make them real.
And we got ourselves in a lot of debt while at it.
Our peers buy cars and houses to impress us.
Some lie about buying, while they are renting.
We are “keeping up with the Joneses” as a means to deal with our insecurities.
It is all a hot mess.
And for what?
Do we really believe people will not care about us as much if we did not have fancy things?
If that is true, then it is sad.
But the saddest part is that we have reduced our value to material things.
We have allowed ourselves to believe the people around us are more fascinated by what we have than who we are.
Does this also mean we judge others the same way?
Point is, I believe the people who love you will probably stick with you even if you had little.
People who really care about you would want you to make good decisions, and not get you in financial trouble.
And those who are only there because you have certain things probably don’t even deserve to be your friends.
They are leeches.
So you don’t need them anyway.
Take inventory of the people around you because they influence how you live your life.
Then do some introspection and figure out why you have the urge to be the centre of attention all the time.
Trust me, you don’t need to ruin your credit record to be loved.
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