Men discuss issues
Men should use time at gatherings to discuss their issues.
Men engaged in a dialogue where they were encouraged to discuss issues they face among each other.
Facilitated by George Ismail and Vusi Chebekhulu who are active in leading and mentoring men, they held an open dialogue with attendees.
Chebekhulu asked men what their definition of being a man is.
Responses from men were looking after their families, being an example and positive role models for their children.
“Men can be good or bad role models.
“What good can you do where your neighbour can learn from especially where fathers are absent?” Chebekhulu asked.
Chebekhulu asked men when do they become a man and what is the qualities of man.
Attendees concurred that a man is not born once he has a family.
A man was defined as someone who has self-respect, is faithful, provides for and protects his family and leads by example.
Fears and challenges of some of the men are unemployment, crime, illegal substances, violence and not being able to provide for their family.
“Whenever we meet as men we don’t talk about our own issues and fears because that would make us look weak.
“Let’s make sure we discuss these real issues then we’ll be able to deal with them and know how to better support our women,” Chebekhulu said.
He said men assume what women want.
“We need to challenge their thinking, our role is to challenge not change them,” said Chebekhulu.
