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“Most people never give themselves the permission to live their dreams, they instead give themselves the permission to make excuses not to live their dreams.”- Veli Ndaba – The Engineered Mind – to WIN
Many people claim the reason they suffer or aren’t happy is because of what they don’t have.
I have, however, found that in most cases, that’s not the case or the truth. The glaring truth is this: in order to have what you want, you first have to become who you need to be – in other words to deserve it. This is a deliberate process, not wishful thinking.
Ask yourself the following questions:
What do I want to have or what results do I want to produce?
Who do I have to be in order to achieve and maintain the results I want? You see, getting something is one thing, but keeping it is another.
A word of caution: if you happen to get something that you are not ready for, it can destroy your life and you end up worse off than before. The examples that come to mind to support this are lottery winnings, inheritance money, promotion at work that you are not ready for or overnight success.
This is a stern warning that you have to be very careful what you wish for, including some relationships with certain people, as it may be your very downfall. Most people are not where they are supposed to be because they got what they wished for (house, romantic relationship, money, position, profession, etc), but were not ready for it and it either destroyed them or set them back.
Certain things we want are actually the very things we don’t need, watch out!
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