Recovery coach and author, Moshitadi Lehlomela launched her book which tackles childhood trauma, The Girl Who Survived Her Mother at Exclusive Books in Rosebank Mall.
Lehlomela explained that although society was used to ‘daddy issues’, a ‘mother wound’ also existed which affected her greatly.
“I feel that the ‘mother wound’ [which comes from a failed daughter and mother relationship] affects people deeply because a woman is born with all her eggs, meaning one has been with their mother before he or she was conceived which makes the relationship deeper.”
She added that in the book, she speaks about her ‘mother wound’ which caused her immense pain because it is generally a relationship that speaks to how a young girl envisions herself; because moms are one of the most important templates a girl child can have in terms of how a woman is supposed to be.”
The Girl Who Survived Her Mother details Lehlomela’s torturous relationship with her mother, maps the intergenerational nature of the trauma in her family, and reveals how she was finally able to begin healing.
An audience member Pam Langa said that she stumbled across a photo of the book on social media.
“When I came across this book on social media I thought I am finally being seen and someone is going through the same thing I am.”
Another audience member, Nonjabulo Hlengwa added that she was glad dialogues about such taboo topics in African cultures were being had in the public space.
The mother wound survivor concluded that therapy was helpful because it was the first place her feelings were validated.
“Everyone around me made excuses for my mother’s behaviour and treatment towards me, because there is a culture amongst Africans to dismiss a child’s pain and trauma.”
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