Everywhere I look, be it on social media, in the newspaper, magazines and even when out in public, I notice a lot of angry people who just want to fight and argue about almost everything.
It is also common in South Africa for that anger and aggression to be displayed in a rather violent manner, causing much damage and hardship, especially considering how many times this type of behaviour has not solved the issue that caused the anger or unhappiness.
I honestly feel that we, as South Africans, just want to argue and fight, no matter the subject. We are offended easily, and want to have our own opinions, beliefs or viewpoints respected; but we do not want to show the same courtesy to others.
I once read a very apt quote that said, “You do not have to attend every argument you are invited to,” and this is something I try very hard to live by. The simple reason is to protect my own sanity and yes, try and reduce my stress and anxiety levels. I also believe that you have to choose your battles, and sometimes it is best to rather walk away from an argument.
People tend to forget that we all have (and are entitled to) our own opinions, viewpoint and beliefs, and that we are allowed to voice them. There is no law that says if you see or hear something you do not agree with, or feel different about, you have to argue about it just because you feel you can. Sometimes, it is better to scroll past and let it go. You cannot expect someone to respect your opinion, belief or viewpoint if you cannot do the same.
I scrolled through the internet a little bit, and found a few tips that might help us all to maybe argue less:
• Dodge the defensive
• Step away from the situation to cool down
• Always fight or argue face to face (if you absolutely have to fight it out)
• Create boundaries for a fight
• Take care of the conflict as soon as possible
Until next week, stay safe and look out for each other …
