Author discusses divorce in South Africa
In a book which was only released last month and is almost sold out, the publisher and author plan to go on a large second print run as any reader will understand the book's popularity and relevance to today's society speaks for itself.
LIMPOPO –Â A resident of Lulekani village, Wilson Shilowa, published his debut book discussing marriage and cheating last month to great acclaim.
“In the past 20 years we have seen a spike in the divorce rate in South Africa and across the world,” he said. “What I noticed is that divorce does not go alone, it often goes hand in glove with abuse to all members of the family.”
After his own divorce, Wilson became a marriage counsellor. He attributes his courage and strong will to Dr John Tibane who placed him in a mentorship programme which grew and developed him as a speaker.
Aside from marriage counselling, he also hosts the Youth Ke Yona slot on Munghana Lonene FM where he also discusses the rise in the number of children growing up without both parents as a result of separation.
“In my view, it looks like the method we’ve tried using over the past few years to keep our relationships intact have failed drastically,” he said.
“Many of the counsellors themselves are either going through divorce or their marriages are running on autopilot.”
He said he visited a bookshop and bought 10 best-selling books on relationships, and only two spoke about cheating. “This was a concern for me,” he said. “I wrote The Journey of Love because I wanted to bring to readers the untapped truth of love that is meant to last, and not just a writing.”
He added cultural diversity between partners in a relationship could lead to more misunderstandings.
“I’d rather lose an argument and win my partner than win an argument and lose my partner,” he added.
“What I have also observed is that there are no books in the market that talk about love the South African way. The source of break-ups in America and here in the motherland are different as much as there are similarities.”
He is pleased with the move of South African people where they had developed a reading trend. “When you mention a book title, you’ll find many people are familiar with it,” he said.
“The introduction of social media set a platform for more people to read.”
For more information, contact him at 062 667 7893 or wilson.shilowa@gmail.com or follow him on Facebook.
