How to maintain a healthy relationship despite chronic illness

Affinity Health says that maintaining a healthy relationship can be challenging for anyone, but it can be especially difficult for those living with chronic illness.

What is a chronic illness?

A chronic illness is a long-term medical condition that affects a person’s daily life. These illnesses can be physical (such as cancer, HIV/Aids, multiple sclerosis, lupus, respiratory diseases, diabetes, and cystic fibrosis) or they can be mental (such as depression or anxiety). These conditions are managed and often require ongoing treatment to reduce symptoms and improve your overall quality of life.

How many people in South Africa suffer from chronic illnesses?

According to a 2017 study by the South African Medical Research Council, approximately 80% of deaths in South Africa are due to non-communicable diseases (NCDs), which include chronic illnesses.

Furthermore, it’s estimated that around 7.5 million people in South Africa live with diabetes and around 17,5% of the population suffers from hypertension.

The impact of living with a chronic illness

Living with a chronic illness significantly impacts a person’s life and relationships. The constant management and treatment of symptoms are physically and emotionally taxing. It also affects a person’s ability to work, socialise, and participate in activities they enjoy. Chronic illness can also place a strain on relationships as loved ones may not fully understand the daily challenges and limitations that come with the condition.

However, it is possible to maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship despite chronic illness with extra effort and understanding.

Five ways to maintain a healthy relationship despite chronic illness:

1. Communicate openly and honestly with your partner

It is important to keep your partner informed about your condition and how it affects your day-to-day life. This can help your partner understand your needs and how they can support you.

2. Set realistic expectations

Chronic illness can affect energy levels and your ability to participate in certain activities. Setting realistic expectations for yourself and your partner and being understanding and flexible when plans change are important.

3. Practice self-care

Taking care of your physical and emotional health is important to maintain a healthy relationship. Make sure you are getting enough rest, eating well, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.

4. Seek out support

Whether it is through therapy, support groups, or talking with friends and family, having a support structure helps you manage the emotional and mental toll of your chronic illness.

5. Make time for intimacy

Chronic illness impacts sexual health and desire, but making time for intimacy and physical touch with your partner is important. Open and honest communication helps you navigate any difficulties and find ways to maintain a fulfilling physical relationship.