The effects of bullying are far-reaching and can manifest themselves psychologically.
Phil Keye, an Inner Life Skills Coach, who can at times be found holding No More Bullying workshops at schools, which not only aid the children but also gives teachers the tools to handle and understand bullying as a whole, gave his insight on the effects of bullying and how to empower yourself after the experience.
He said that if one has experienced bullying and has not processed it, one will, for a great part of their lives, either stay a victim or become a bully. One would either isolate themselves due to fear or become someone who is resentful of the world.
“The best way [to deal with this] is to be the person you were meant to be.”
He added that one needs to realise that we are the creators of our own lives and should learn from every past experience.
“I teach people they have a role in their destiny. I believe that people need to have a certain level of intention to create the sort of life they want,” he said.
You can help yourself
As some people might not have access to psychologists or life coaches there are ways you can adapt to empower yourself.
The first is to breathe and hydrate yourself with purpose.
He explained that by taking deeper, more meaningful breaths and hydrating yourself more abundantly, you subconsciously teach yourself to receive more and in so doing you start to give more.
The next is to write down five things you are grateful for. This gives you a sense of personal power, as no matter how terrible your day might have been, you have chosen to see the good in it.
“There are so many things to be grateful for. We look past the fact that we are these magnificent beings,” he said.
The final is to write down how you want to wake up feeling the next day. He said through this, one finds their day is filled with little things that help you fulfil this positive goal.
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