But what about your marriage? Christmas is a very stressful time of year for everyone and if you don’t look after yourself and your marriage, you could be in trouble.
Of course we all make sacrifices over the holidays. We give up our beds for our parents who have travelled miles to see us and we end up sleeping in our children’s rooms, and they end up on the couch. Is there any space you can call your own anymore? In between the cooking, eating, chatting and keeping the family busy, we need to find time for ourselves and our partner. One of the joys of being in a committed and loving marriage is your sex life!
But what do you do when your home has been taken over by the extended family and you’ve got ‘little elves’ running around the house all day? Here are some ideas for keeping your sex life spicy this festive season!
Try staying up a bit later (or waking up earlier) than usual and making sure everyone is asleep before you begin. This will take away some of the stress of someone barging in unexpectedly. What a nightmare it would be if Junior walks in on Santa Claus telling mommy what a naughty little girl she has been!
Be silent! Do what you would normally do, but don’t make a sound. This allows you to communicate in non-verbal ways, which can also be loads of fun. You may even find yourselves connecting more because you have to look into each other’s eyes and gestures what you want.
Try asking someone to help baby-sit. At this time of year, there are money and time restraints on everyone. Ask a friend or a neighbour to take the kids for a day and you’ll repay them the next day by taking their kids away. This will get you at least a few hours to spend with your spouse and you can do what you do best together!
Even if sex does seem to be out of the question, make sure you remain close to your partner. Be sure to talk to each other about your feelings and remind your partner, and yourself, why you love him or her. Show each other more affection than you would normally to keep the stress at bay. Marriage is a partnership and it is always good to know that someone has your back; even if the in-laws are driving you crazy!
