Ten steps to planning a same sex marriage

Same sex marriage may not be the easiest wedding to plan, but it’s not impossible. Everybody wants their ‘big day’ to be perfect after all, even if it may not be socially accepted everywhere.

Here’s our top 10 list to guide you through the planning of your fabulous day.

1. Getting started:

Get someone who knows you well to help with the planning and all arrangements. The closer they are to you and your partner, the more they will share your vision as to what you not only want but need.

2. Traditional or nontraditional:

Decide whether to search for a wedding officiate or to use your local Home Affairs, and then have a small get-together with family and friends afterwards.

3. Save the date:

It is important to decide on a date which suites both partners. If possible choose a date which holds meaning to your relationship like an anniversary or your first date.

4. Informing your families:

Try to be considerate of their feelings when you break the news, but stand your ground and don’t let it ruin your planning.

5. Who to invite:

Remember you don’t want anyone spoiling your big day. Send your family and friends invitations but be open to the thought that not all you invite will attend your special day. Don’t let it get you down or ruin the day for you.

6.Outfit choice:

Keep in mind that you and your partner might have different taste in clothing, as long as the color scheme matches let your partner wear what they comfortable in.

7. The rings:

This is very important. Choose your rings according to both yours and your partner’s preference and style in jewelry. Remember rings do not have to match, as long as you are both happy that’s all that counts.

8. The flowers:

You are known for being colorful, go with bold bright colors, but make sure your flowers hold some sort of meaning to you.

9. Compromise:

Remember this is a same sex relationship, two very strong personalities with two different points of views. Make all decisions, arrangements and planning together and respect each others opinions. Be prepared to compromise, it makes the journey so much more adventurous.

10. Finalising:

Make sure all your planning is done ahead of time. You do not want unnecessary stress. All you need to do is count down the days till you finally say “I do”.