Often spoken about in hushed tones, abuse of the elderly is often considered a ‘taboo’ subject. The elderly folk who are abused are sometimes too embarrassed or afraid to speak out and the cycle continues.
To dispel myths, provide education and share with each other, the Estcourt Senior Citizens Club commemorated World Elder Abuse Awareness Day during their meeting last Wednesday. Members were informed about the various types of abuse; physical, psychological, financial and sexual. Public Relations Officer Ramika Peerbhay said one of the main aims of the day was to speak out as well as inform people about the abuse that the elderly face.
Some of the points she mentioned were: “Treat me with dignity and respect, don’t leave me alone. I don’t want your money; I just want you to spend time with me. Remember we made sacrifices to bring you up, support your elders.”
These words sparked a flurry of comments from the members who spoke about living alone, not seeing their children often as well as their offspring bullying them into knowing what their Wills and insurance policies stipulate.
Guest Speaker Tracy Mutsipa, a Social Worker, said she was impressed by the ‘clued-up’ members and encouraged them to talk about any form of abuse. She went on to explain what the different types of abuse.
“Physical abuse is when the elders are beaten or pushed around. You may see bruises or they may have broken bones and may not want to talk about but it is important to get help.Emotional abuse is unlike physical abuse because no one can see it. You may find that your friend talks negatively or is withdrawn and feels less important, we have to talk about our emotions.
“Sexual abuse is not restricted to sex or touching but also includes videos or explicit material. Also when an elder is forced or ordered to hurry up and undress to be changed,” explained Ms Mutsipa.
She added that neglect and abandonment as well as financial exploitation are forms of abuse. Members agreed that these types of abuse are prevalent in the community. The members also spoke about the abuse they receive at government departments, saying that the attitudes of the staff are generally ‘horrible’.
The talk ended with a member encouraging others to empower themselves, so they may not fall victim to abuse. The male members were treated to gifts ahead of Father’s Day and thereafter members enjoyed a sumptuous lunch.
