Dundee KZN: Love, forgiveness and peace
Our feelings dictate everything but in everything, we must be careful not to make decisions based on how we feel at certain moments, as those moments come and go.
Halalisani Shoba
It is that time of the year when people embrace February as the month where they have a specific day reserved to celebrate love. “Love is in the air” they claim. Love ‘was’ meant to be beautiful, I guess we can all agree on that one. We all want to be loved, which is something I think is fair enough but we tend to make the common mistake by thinking that some people owe us, love.
No one owes you, love, the sooner we absorb that, the better we will be able to understand that love is more than what we can ‘feel’. Behind the scene, a lot is done in the name of love nowadays, hence I say; love ‘was’ meant to be beautiful. It is either people who have lost the true meaning of love or they’ve never had an understanding of what is love. If you understand art, I expect you to understand love.
You cannot claim to know the dynamics of love when you have no passion, creativity, willingness to accommodate, and sacrifice. The reason we fail to celebrate love every day is that we have decided to cloud the narrative of love with feelings. I have noticed that feelings come and go but the consequences of our feelings remain. If I were to be specific about such consequences, some people would find me to be judgemental. If you choose to love someone, it doesn’t mean ‘you’ no longer exist. Remember you must be able to take of yourself before you “expect” someone to take care of yourself.
Love goes in hand with forgiveness and without forgiveness, we will forever remain miserable without peace. Those who choose forgiveness and peace, are stronger than those who hold grudges. Forgiveness is not a feeling but a decision, although some would prefer a choice over a decision. I don’t want to think of the outcomes if we were to forgive based on how we feel.
Do you think people who advocate for forgiveness and peace care about how we feel? I’m not saying we live in a better South Africa, but if Nelson Mandela and his associates considered how many people felt prior to 1994, do you think we would be living in a so-called rainbow nation? I know we may differ on this topic but forgiveness takes courage.
Our feelings dictate everything but in everything, we must be careful not to make decisions based on how we feel at certain moments, as those moments come and go. Whenever possible, let us preach love, forgiveness, and peace as those are basic things that have the power to make difference in our lifetime.
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