Maternal mental health stressors need attention too
Ububele Educational and Psychotherapy Trust appeal to struggling mothers to reach out to them so that Ububele can jump to their support so that both the mother and baby's well-being are taken care of.
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Thandiwe Khumalo of Ububele Educational and Psychotherapy Trust writes:
It’s really hard being a mother as there is so much pressure not just to care for your baby, but other pressures, including financial stressors, family problems and sometimes unavailable fathers.
This can lead to mothers experiencing mental health problems including anxiety, depression, and even suicidal thoughts. This can have an impact on the way that mothers are able to respond to and care for their babies.
Maybe you have had days like this – when it feels too hard to think about your baby. This happens every now and then, but when this happens all the time, it can have a very serious impact on your baby.
This is important, as research has shown that the first three years of a baby’s life have the biggest impact on their lifelong mental health and overall development.
In addition, mothers’ experiences of a difficult conception, pregnancy and birth process also have the capacity to impact mothers mentally and emotionally.
Did you know that babies are able to pick up on your feelings? So, while these things are difficult, we need to think about how the baby will be experiencing their mothers’ feelings of anger, hatred, and disappointment.
Furthermore, mother’s whose own caregivers were struggling when they were born, might find it hard to care for their own children, and this creates a pattern of relationship difficulties.
But the good news is that we are able to break these patterns of relating. Mothers who are aware of their own feelings and are able to think about how their baby might experience their feelings, are more likely to be able to respond sensitively to their babies.
We don’t always know what baby may be experiencing, but the most important thing is that we keep trying to understand them. While babies are not able to talk, they are able to communicate with us using cues such crying, eye contact, grimacing and yawning. If mothers are struggling mentally and emotionally, it may be difficult for her to notice and respond to these cues.
At Ububele, we believe that it is really important that mothers are supported, as this will help them to process their feelings so that they don’t impact baby. If you are struggling, please reach out to us so that we are able to support both you and baby.
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