Tips to safely navigate cyber space as a child

CHILDREN growing up in the Internet age face a rapidly shifting technological landscape, riddled with hidden dangers that lurk online. While cyber space offers many useful tools to children, social media can pose a risk that is difficult to address, especially for parents who grew up in another era altogether. Chelsea Preparatory School in Durban North recently hosted an informative talk on the issue, which was attended by learners and their parents.

“As the fourth Industrial Revolution is upon us, it is important to keep abreast of education, providing children with opportunities to engage in learning in an inter-active environment, including technology and thinking skills, however, social media apps are not permitted at Chelsea, and parents are encouraged to manage their children’s devices to protect them from cyber-bullying,” said Sandy Williams, Chelsea Preparatory School’s deputy principal.

Speaking at the event was Christy Herselman, founder of The Chat, an organisation that aims to help parents tackle big topics in conversation with their children.

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“As guardians of our children, we have a huge responsibility to coach and equip their children to navigate this new and ever-changing world,” said Herselman.

She offered practical tips to assist parents in this task, encouraging parents to be involved, set good examples and take charge of their children’s online antics.

“When we start to give our children access to the online world, we need to see it, as a gradual transition from micro-managing their digital lives to giving them complete freedom to the online space, having given them the tools they need to do it well. Train them to manage their freedom,” she said.

Once a parent decides their child is ready to use social media, it is essential that they coach their child and offer guidance.

“Teach them that happiness isn’t everything and they are not the centre of the universe. Happiness should not be our goal, joy is a by-product of a well-lived life. If we teach our kids to pursue happiness we raise consumers. Our goal is to raise adults who give, serve, sacrifice, participate and grow their talents and passions,” she said.

Teaching children never to post out of anger, to criticise someone in person, not online and to focus on being positive and encouraging are some of Herselman’s top tips.

“Teach your children to ask them selves a few questions before posting online: Would I want my teachers or parents to read this? Will I regret this in five years time?”

Herselman cautioned parents against using the Internet as an easy entertainment tool.

“Let your children get bored. It is when our kids get bored that their brains find much needed serenity to imagine, get creative, process and problem solve, think things through and form their own opinions. Bored children equals good parenting. We don’t need to entertain and neither do devices,” she said.

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Maintaining a healthy balance between screen time and real life is also a vital habit to instill in children and leading by example is important.

“Credibility is everything. We can’t have double standards. Don’t be a digitally distracted parent. Display healthy boundaries and responsibility in your use of technology. In your relationships and challenging situations, model healthy conflict resolution and coping skills,” said Herselman.

“Encourage your children to take part in sports, youth groups, church, volunteer. All these activities significantly lower their likelihood to be anxious or depressed,” she added.

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