“I was too heartbroken to say this then, but I am so sorry for your loss South Africa. I know that there will never be anyone else like him. I hope that you never forget him, as I know that I never could,” Kelly Khumalo said in the post.
“Today is exactly a year since it happened,” she began. “Since our great loss, for you it was a goalkeeper, a captain, a friend, a brother, a son, a beloved cousin, maybe a role model, for me, it was everything.
“It was a terrible thing that happened. An unimaginable tragedy. Senzo was more than just a lover to me; he was a part of me. The bond we shared, its indestructability scared me. I always thought to myself, what kind of love is this that I have for this man? And you know that I have been heartbroken and disappointed before so I was no longer good at being gullible.”
She reflected back on the early days after Meyiwa’s death: “It has taken some time to see things so soberly. It wasn’t easy to do that when he passed. There was so much commotion everywhere that I could hardly hear myself and feel my loss. And then things calmed down and there I was within myself and the tragedy struck.”
Khumalo said along the way she learnt about the difficulties of being a woman and constantly being told how to deal with the situation.
“ … at every turn strangers and friends alike will feel entitled to your every part – even your emotions. I cannot recount the many times I heard how to grieve from people who didn’t care to find out how I was doing. The many times I was told to dress like this or like that, ‘don’t go out Kelly’, ‘this is how you conduct your spirituality Kelly’, ‘it’s too early to return to work Kelly’, ‘that’s not how you treat his family Kelly’, ‘that’s not ladylike behaviour Kelly …”
In July this year, police said they were close to making an arrest in the murder investigations, but three months later, no arrest has been made.