Bafana Bafana captain Senzo Meyiwa’s funeral service took place at the Moses Mabhida Stadium in Durban today.
Mandisa persuaded to attend Meyiwa’s funeral
The wife of slain Bafana Bafana captain, Senzo Meyiwa, Mandisa Mkhize had to be persuaded to attend the soccer player’s funeral, The Citizen has learnt.
She decided to stay away, due to their rocky marriage.
“Senzo’s father persuaded her to come down to Durban for the funeral,” said Mandisa’s friend, who did not want her name revealed, yesterday.
“In her view, there was no reason to attend as Senzo was already staying with another woman at the time of his death.”
Mkhize only flew to Durban on Thursday, five days after her husband’s murder – unlike other family members and relatives who immediately reported to the family home.
“Frankly speaking, she was not certain whether she was still regarded as Senzo’s wife, given that he had made it clear he no longer wanted to be with her. She did not want to be seen as defying Senzo’s wishes,” the friend said.
Jabulile Buthelezi, the Meyiwa family spokesperson, blamed Khumalo because she was “creating doubts in Mandisa’s mind”.
“As a family, we had to give her the assurance that we still regard her as Senzo’s wife – irrespective of the fact that he was now busy with Kelly. I hope people would appreciate the damage Kelly had caused to us, as a family, as well as to Mandisa,” she said.
Senzo was killed at the house of Khumalo’s parents in Vosloorus, Ekurhuleni, while visiting the singer.
It also emerged Senzo had been living with Khumalo at the time of his death.
Buthelezi blamed Khumalo for using the child she had with Meyiwa to damage his marriage.
“She would ask Senzo to visit the child and then end up forcing him to sleep over,” she said.
Khumalo had to watch Saturday’s funeral proceedings from her Johannesburg home after Senzo’s father, Sam, made it clear she was not welcome.
However, some had criticised the Meyiwa family’s decision, given that funerals, particularly in African families, were normally open to all members of the public.
But Jabulani Maphalala, a Zulu cultural expert, defended the decision, saying it was in keeping with Zulu culture. “She is just a mistress with no standing in the Meyiwa family and it would have been wrong for her to attend the funeral alongside Senzo’s wife, Mandisa.”
That Khumalo had a child with Khumalo did not entitle her to attend the deceased’s funeral, Maphalala said.
“The ancestors would not have recognised her as lobola was never paid for her.”
More than 30 000 people converged at the Moses Machida Stadium on Saturday to give a hero’s goodbye to Meyiwa – who was given a State funeral.
He was laid to rest at the Chesterville Heroes Acre.