Solitude vs society: Balancing our inner introvert and social instincts

Humans are inherently social creatures and our aversion to prolonged solitude is deeply rooted in both our biology and psychology.

Although we sometimes feel the need for solitude, we do not want to be alone for long periods of time.

There are exceptions to the rule. Take how we generally view the quintessential social butterfly, fluttering from one event to another, exuding charm and collecting friends like souvenirs.

What many don’t realise is that even these social dynamos have a secret: they occasionally need to land on a quiet leaf and catch their breath.

After all, even butterflies need a break from all that flapping.

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Introverts will obviously not agree with me on the social creature stance. To them, solitude isn’t just a luxury; it’s a necessity.

It’s the equivalent of plugging oneself into a charger after a draining day of human interaction. As one witty soul put it: “I love being alone. I just wish I was better at it when other people are around.”

Of course, like all good things, solitude is best enjoyed in moderation. Too much alone time and you might start conversing with your houseplants – and worrying when they don’t respond.

The key is finding that sweet spot where solitude rejuvenates rather than isolates.

However, from an evolutionary standpoint, early humans relied on group cohesion for survival – collective hunting, shared resources and mutual protection against predators.

This interdependence fostered a natural inclination toward social bonds, as isolation often meant increased vulnerability.

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Neurologically, our brains are wired to seek connection. It is widely believed that social interaction is a fundamental human need, akin to necessities like food and water.

It is as if we feel the need to be in the company of others, an involuntary addiction, if you will. We do not realise that the psychological benefits of social connections are actually profound.

Engaging in meaningful interactions enhances feelings of belonging and happiness. Even casual conversations can significantly boost one’s mood and sense of community.

Conversely, a lack of social interaction can lead to feelings of loneliness, which have been linked to adverse health outcomes, including increased stress and a higher risk of mental health disorders.

In essence, our aversion to being alone is not merely a cultural phenomenon but a reflection of our intrinsic need for social connection – a cornerstone of human health and well-being.

Now, who wants to party?

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