New book tells how broken men hurt women

He says he grew up a broken child because he did not get the love he needed from his mother and father. “I felt rejected and did not think I was loved as much as my other siblings, and I grew up hating my mother. “My father was never present, and I only reconciled with both my parents when I was 35 years old.” His mother died eight years ago and his father last year.

He says the broken and unheard young boy in him turned into a womaniser, even though I was a born again Christian. He was 22 when he was intimate with a woman for the first time and impregnated two girls at the same time. This led many people in the community to gossip, especially since he was a called and anointed young man.

“From then on I just became a womaniser and I hurt many women.” He was also the head of a church that was forced to close due to his lack of discipline and character as a ‘man of God’. However, he says he is a healed and a changed man now. He has been married four times and has apologised to the women who he hurt. Today he is friends with most of them.

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He is also a father of four and has been open with them about his past.His advice to women is to never try to change a man because it is not possible if they do not want to change. He further encourages women to raise their sons to become better men otherwise they would turn out to be like their fathers. He has an online ministry where they pray for the first seven days of each month with the theme, ‘revival’.

The book is R250 and available in Pretoria, Polokwane, and Nkowankowa. It can be obtained by calling 081 598 4934.