16 Days of Activism: Organisation says GBV can be eradicated before it starts

A father who was planning his family’s murder and his suicide; husbands who beat their partners; and men who abandon and abuse, Craig Wilkinson has seen it all. However, he still believes that true masculinity is a force for good and that if we can heal and restore men, South Africa can stop destructive masculine behaviour in its tracks.

Wilkinson is the founder and CEO of Father A Nation, an NPC that works to encourage positive masculinity in the country. The NPC has been teaching and inspiring boys and men for over 10 years to live with positive, healthy masculinity and stand against any form of abuse.

“Many men and women in SA grow up without the presence of a father or positive male figure. This often results in paternal wounds and destructive beliefs about masculinity, with young men looking to figures such as gangsters, abusers, or absent fathers as role models. This highlights the critical role of a positive male figure in shaping the minds of boys and men in the country,” Wilkinson said.

During 16 Days of Activism from late November to December 10, Wilkinson, who is also a bestselling author and motivational speaker, and his team at Father A Nation will host hundreds of men at dynamic GBV workshops in hotspots around Gauteng.

“Our philosophy at Father A Nation is that if we can heal men, we can heal the world. We focus on working with men to become excellent fathers, mentors, role models and just good men. The solution to GBV is to stop it in its tracks, men are the primary perpetrators of physical and sexual GBV. While it’s critical to create awareness and support victims; ideally, we don’t want victims at all and the way to stop that happening is to stop wounded men from being abusive,” said Wilkinson.

Wilkinson added that GBV can be stopped in its tracks by teaching, inspiring and healing men.

“We work throughout SA with boys and men at schools, universities, communities and organisations in both the public and private sectors. We meet these men where they are at, from taverns to corporations and sports fields. Over 300 000 men have gone through our programmes over the past 10 years, either through soccer tournaments, tavern conversations, dialogues or workshops in communities and camps.”

The sessions always produce lively debate and rich, authentic personal stories of both struggle and triumph. “The engagements are highly effective in helping men to understand what GBV is, examine their own lives and provide them with the knowledge and motivation to turn their lives around. Healthy masculinity never abuses,” added Wilkinson.

Wilkinson added that providing men with a platform to share their struggles and motivation to be better men goes a long way toward helping them to be “a force for good.” A lot of men want to be better men, good husbands, and loving fathers but they have many misconceptions about what masculinity is.

Addressing the issues that prevent men from being able to conduct themselves as the natural-born leaders, builders, and fathers that they are, begins with approaching them with compassion, not blame.

Holding men accountable need not take away from this most fundamental need for people to be treated like their feelings matter.

“We look deeply into the reasons why men abuse with the understanding that a reason is not an excuse,” concludes Wilkinson.

Visit www.fatheranation.co.za to find out more.