Although we all enjoy family holidays, there may be times when parents need a child-free vacation. Here are some tips for handling holidays without your child.
Discuss your plans ahead of time
If you and your partner are arranging a child-free holiday, informing your child(ren) ahead of time is essential.
If you anticipate that your children will be happy to spend time with a caretaker or family member, you may wish to inform them a few days in advance. However, if your children are likely to be upset or nervous about being separated from you, it is OK to notify them just days before your departure. There is no point in telling them too early because they may spend more time feeling agitated or anxious.
Find an appropriate caregiver while you are away
Once you’ve chosen a date that works for you, the following step is to find a reliable babysitter who is available. Your parents and in-laws may top your priority list. Contact them and inquire if they are up for babysitting duty.
If grandparents cannot care for your children, consider other trusted friends who have a good relationship with your child. Just ensure that your children are comfortable with the individual.
If you have older children and are travelling during the school year, having the grandparents or a caregiver stay at your home may be better so as not to interrupt their schedule. Children typically feel better in a familiar atmosphere, whether it allows them to follow their usual sleep routines more simply or to play with their own toys.
Set standards for everyone
Be sure to communicate your expectations to your children, as well as to your parents, in-laws, or whoever you entrust with their care. The most crucial guidelines you’ll want someone to follow are safety-related. It’s also a good idea to provide the caregiver with information on your children’s normal schedule and ideas for keeping everyone entertained.
Maintain contact
Keep communication channels open with your child during your holiday. You may also request that the caregiver send you a text message at specific times, such as when your child arrives home from school or is about to go to sleep.
In addition, there is nothing wrong with setting boundaries with your children regarding calling for non-emergencies if you believe it would interfere with the trip’s objective, which is to spend time together as a couple.
Leave your regrets behind
It’s natural to experience anxiety and guilt when leaving your children, particularly young ones. However, time away from home helps children develop independence. It allows them to experience being without you. Older children can practise solving difficulties independently and getting along with others while you’re away. Your absence will teach them patience, tolerance, and self-discipline.
It is equally crucial for parents to have time without their children. Parents require both self-care and interpersonal care. A child-free holiday is an excellent opportunity to do this, especially if there haven’t been many date nights recently.
