4 Things stay-at-home moms need to let go
There are a few things you should never feel when you're a stay-at-home mom. Here's what they are and how to let them go.
If you’re a stay-at-home mom you’re probably familiar with the phrase: “You have no right to complain because you get to stay at home with your children all the time!” In truth, while spending more time with your child is certainly a benefit of being a stay-at-home mom, it’s not all roses!
Society seems to put working women on a pedestal, while homemakers are brushed to the sidelines. No matter how many hours stay-at-hom moms put in, no matter how hard they work, not everyone sees being a stay-at-home mom as a legit job.
Here are four things that many stay-at-home moms grapple with, and how to let them go.
Guilt
Some stay-at-home moms feel guilty for being able to stay at home with their children. They feel like others are judging them because they aren’t contributing to society in a way they feel is adequate. Yes, while you may not be dealing with the stress of a job and raising a family, being a stay-at-home mom is anything but an easy job, and you shouldn’t beat yourself up for leaving the workforce and dedicating your time to raising your child.
Inadequacies
No one is perfect and even superhero moms have to put their capes away every now and then. Being a loving mom trumps anything. Stop comparing yourself to other moms and just be you.
Regret
Do you regret your decision to drop your career and be a stay-at-home? We’ll let you in on a little secrete – all moms question their life decisions at some point or another. Some stay-at-home moms question if they made the right move at least once a month, others at least once a day. It’s completely normal.
Illusions
For some reason, many stay-at-home moms think quitting their day jobs and being full-time parents will make their marriage stronger only to find that this isn’t always the case. Looking after your child 24/7, plus financial pressures, can take a toll on any relationship, even the strong ones. Being a mom is a complicated dance of making sure your children are happy, your spouse is happy, and you are happy. That dance is something all moms have to practice – whether you’re a career mom, or a stay-at-home mom.
