DURBAN TikToker, podcaster and relationship coach, Andrew Dlame, known as Dr Mjolo, shared some tips on how to survive a breakup with your mental health intact.
Dr Mjolo says being left by a partner can contribute to a lot of mental health issues, mainly depression and loss of self-esteem. However, like any other problem, this can be managed. He gives five steps on how to keep in check with your mental health while going through a breakup.
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Take the time to grieve
In the beginning stages, it is of paramount importance that you grieve. If need be, take leave, and if possible, cry your heart out. The sooner you cry, the sooner it gets better. With time, you end up accepting the situation. You also need to have a support structure, where you have confidantes you can speak to.
Reevaluate your possible part in the breakup
Getting things off your chest is of paramount importance. Upon sharing, also acknowledge that a relationship takes the efforts of both partners to work, and you could have played a part in the failure – you will gain a lesson by identifying your weaknesses and identifying red flags in the near future when you’re in your next relationship.
Take the time to heal
Moving on rapidly before healing is not a good idea. The reason is that the same issues will arise, and you’ll project your insecurities onto an innocent person whom you hope is there to help you heal. When implementing these methods, you will gradually find yourself again.
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Take your mind off things
It is very important that you invest in yourself and explore the things you enjoy doing. That could include finding a mentally uplifting hobby, such as reading books on finance, investing, psychology or self-improvement novels. This could also include any form of exercise to release the tension in your body, so you can be more relaxed.
Be sure before you move on
Lastly, wait until you feel you’re ready to get into a new relationship before you start a new one. Take your time. Don’t rush into it – if it doesn’t feel natural or this person possesses any negative traits that your ex had, do not engage romantically with that person.
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