Bullying can be highly distressing and have a negative impact on the child’s self esteem, affecting many areas of their lives, including their confidence and scholastic performance. It can cause feelings of isolation and have far-reaching effects on a child’s personality and ability to socialise. They can even start developing psychosomatic symptoms to try avoid going to school, such as headaches or stomach aches.
The effects of bullying can become so serious that victims sometimes turn to self-mutilation (such as cutting themselves) or, in the worst cases, suicide.
If parents identify that their child is being bullied, the problem needs to be addressed. While parents should do whatever is within their capabilities to do so, they should first ask their child how they can help. If the parent confronts the bully, they may inadvertently make things worse, which disempowers the child.
Should the bullying continue, the parent should contact the principal of the school.
Effects and signs of bullying:
- Anger or depression.
- Avoidance of settings in which bullying may occur, such as school.
- Greater incidence of illness.
- Decrease in grades.
- Loss of interest in academic achievements
- Reduced ability to concentrate.
- Difficulty trusting people.
- Interpersonal difficulties, such as fear and avoidance of new social situations.
- Self-isolation.
- Self-esteem problems.
- Psychosomatic symptoms such as headaches and / or stomach aches
It needs to be remembered that bullies are victims too. There is often underlying reasons for their behaviour. They often feel the need to be in control and to feel good about themselves which is caused by low self-esteem, feelings of powerlessness or anger. They compensate for these feelings by acting out and try to dominate their peers through aggression or isolation.
For more information about bullying contact Martins Academy on 011 867 0959, visit their website or email them at info@martinsacademy.co.za.
