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“When you have a lot of confidence and you feel like nobody can beat you, it’s game over for everyone else.” – Jason Day
Great ideas keep dropping into people’s minds without being taken seriously, they are never executed until they sort of rot in there. So the mind becomes the graveyard for brilliant ideas.
Years later, when we read that somebody else has turned an idea into a great success, we may lament to ourselves:
“I thought about that once. Why didn’t I do something about it?”
After reading self-improvement books and articles, I slowly realised what real confidence is and how I could have it.
This is what I discovered:
1. Confidence is not a personality trait
Think of how differently you act in front of your family and friends than in front of strangers or in a room full of people.
How confident you completely change depending on the situation and context.
It’s not set and how you react to those situations can be adapted and developed over time.
2. Confidence takes practise
I use to be shy when speaking in front of strangers or a room full of people.
I started attending Toastmasters International, an organisation that helps people confront their fears and develop public speaking skills.
Right now, that’s none of my worries. I speak in front of thousands of people now with so much ease.
It’s all about practise, practise and practise.
3. You don’t have to be loud to be confident
Ever heard the phrase those who shout the loudest often have nothing to say?
You don’t have to force your point on others to be heard. You have to believe in yourself though. Confidence is contagious, so is lack thereof.