When you find yourself in an abusive relationship, whether it be physical, sexual, verbal or financial, you should think of a safety and exit plan.
Before you leave
Because violence could escalate when someone tries to leave, here are some things you might consider before you leave:
• Keep any evidence of abuse, such as pictures of injuries, texts, emails, etc.
• Keep a journal of all violent incidences, noting dates, events and threats made, if possible. Keep your journal in a safe place.
• Know where you can go to get help. Tell someone what is happening to you.
• If you are injured, go to a doctor or an emergency room and report what happened to you. Ask that they document your visit.
• If you have children, identify a safe place for them, like a room with a lock or a friend’s house where they can go for help. Reassure them that their job is to stay safe, not to protect you.
• If you need a safe place to stay, contact your local trauma unit at a SAPS.
• Try to set money aside or ask friends or family members to hold money for you.
