16.6.2019 03:00 pm
What do you do when you have lost almost everything? You run. And you don’t stop running.
Three years ago, my life was looking great - from the outside. I was married with two kids (a pigeon pair), two dogs (also a pigeon pair), had a comfortable house and a job. But in the background things were brewing, inside our marriage, we were facing some demons and things got to the point where my marriage, and my whole life, fell apart. In one swoop it seemed like there was no reason to live anymore.
From tiger to free-range parents – what research says about pros and cons of popular parenting styles
What’s the best way to raise your child? It’s a question that has provoked the publication of numerous books, and seen authors race to coin the next quirky name for a new style of parenting.
You as a parent want only the best for your child. And the best might not necessarily mean the most expensive, but rather that you will not tolerate a poor level of training, especially in your child’s developmental years
Children are living at home for longer, so parents have more time to be overly protective of them.
The statistics are shocking, showing over 60% of South African kids are in homes without fathers.
As one mom on Facebook, so eloquently put it: “People say ‘well what did people do before vaccines/antibiotics/pasteurisation?’ as if that’s an argument for going natural. They died, Carol. A lot of people died.”
In this day and age, while technology rules the roost, getting our kids outdoors can be difficult. Surfing the Web on Ipads, “connecting” with friends through social media apps on smartphones, or (if you’re old-school) playing games on Xbox or PlayStation, often takes preference over getting out, running around, rolling on the grass and jumping in the pool.
I’ve been pondering this question for a while now. I suspect that, as my kids get older, they might not always want to tell me what’s on their hearts.
Looking at the face of this nervous, anxious child doing their best to be brave. There might even be a tear shed, from all parties involved. You force yourself to ignore that gnawing feeling in the pit of your stomach, to go give one more hug, and you turn around and leave them at school.
At some point, I hope that the fantasy of parenthood that I retain will be replaced with the reality that I have come to know.
There were many aspects of ‘the good old days’ that to label not great, is being quite kind. So, what can we learn from the past?
Can we really, as parents, keep our children safe from harm, heart-ache, horror or hardship? I think there is too much in this world to guard against, therefore the best way to protect is to prepare.
Family holidays are both a dream and a nightmare, especially when it is with the broader family. The travel time, the close quarters, the differing parenting styles, the relationship dynamics…
(READ TIME: 7 MINS) Back to school can be a traumatic time for both parents and kids. But some moms are harbouring a shameful secret, the truth of how they really feel about their children starting school or going back to school…