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Sonke Gender Justice is calling on all parents and caregivers in South Africa to avoid spanking for one week, and then to decide about the best method to manage their children’s behaviour.
In 2015 the Children’s Act is due to be amended. Sonke and the Working Group on Positive Discipline are advocating for the use of positive discipline and the prohibition of physical punishment in home.
This will not criminalise parents, since the removal of the parent from the child’s environment is obviously not in the best interest of the child. It will rather encourage healthy and caring relationships between parents and children.
Physical punishment of children is contrary to our own constitution, and to several international treaties that we have signed as a country.
Quality research studies from Africa and the rest of the world, have proven that there are much better ways to discipline children that do not depend on using physical punishment or spanking. They have also shown that even the so-called “little slaps” can be harmful in the long-term, impacting on children’s social and emotional development.
Parents usually don’t like spanking their children, but they don’t know what else to do. The starting point for positive discipline is for parents to think about the long-term goals for children, rather than the short-term goals.
Using positive discipline is also a smart way to prevent violence in the long-term, since children grow up learning that problems are not solved through violence, but through thinking and negotiating. – @CarmenBoksburg
