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Education is the key to success (well, that’s what we’re taught). Don’t get me wrong, I believe in education and know for a fact that it can open many doors, but my concern is, what happens to those who cannot afford the opportunity.
Failing matric is a harrowing experience for many, to the point where young people sometimes commit suicide. Besides telling matrics to work hard and pass their exams, as that holds the key to their future, are they also told that things might not go according to plan?
Some may not have the support system to reach their full potential and that can lead to depression, which usually begins in the teenage years and failing matric can be a trigger. It can affect anyone, although it is also more common in girls.
We see matriculants commit suicide after their results come out because many don’t know how to handle the disappointment. Coping mechanisms are needed to help them process disappointment.
Although sometimes there is no specific cause for depression, it is usually caused by a mixture of things rather than any one thing alone. Passing matric is important, but can parents also put on the table other possibilities available if they fail and assure their children that it’s not the end of the world? There is life after failing matric. If they mentally prepare them, then maybe they can better deal with the disappointment and understand that they need to plan the next move.
Life is not always rosy and easy; it has its challenges and ups and downs. We should be more supportive to matrics and let them know that what they have done was good enough and if it does not fall into place, they can get up and try again. Be supportive, no matter the outcome, good or bad.
According to South African Depression and Anxiety Group (Sadag) causes of depression may differ from person to person. Typical causes are personal experiences like family breakdown, the death or loss of someone you love, neglect, abuse, bullying and physical illness. Major changes in life and stress is also a trigger especially if you have no one to talk to.
Symptoms to look out for if you think a loved one might be depressed:
- Persistent sadness, anxiety or feelings of emptiness, loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies
- Feelings of hopelessness, feelings of guilt, worthlessness and helplessness
- Insomnia may be a sign of depression, as well as loss of appetite, weight gain and overeating
- A decrease in energy, the use of drugs and alcohol and thoughts of suicide and death.
Details: To contact a counsellor between 8am and 8pm Monday to Sunday, call 011 234 4837. For a suicidal emergency call 0800 567 567; the 24-hour helpline on 0800 121 314; SMS 31393 and someone will call you back.
