A lot of young and old people are forced to start over after the loss of a loved one, a divorce, a change in your social circle or even recovering from an addiction.
Dwelling on your loss is a recipe for disaster, rather put the past away until you are healthy enough to deal with what happened.
We all go over mountains we are never prepared to climb, but the fundamental part is making the decision to climb.
All my life I have never had to make decisions that influence my future.
I only recently realised that the decisions I make now are crucial to where I will be in a decade.
I decided to start my life over, emotionally and spiritually.
The most difficult part was looking at myself and realising there was truth in the concerns raised by those who care about me.
I discovered they were right and I was wrong.
Sometimes there is nothing wrong with being wrong.
“For now I might be dried grass but I shall be greener as the seasons come, but I dare you to walk on me!”, Dineo Ranaka once said.
There is nothing wrong with realising the negatives in our lives, we just don’t have to focus on them.
I recently spoke to someone who lives on the streets of Kwatsaduza.
He asked me: “Why are you always complaining about the things you have, when I have nothing to complain about?”.
That is when it dawned on me that I am also like the rest of the selfish members of this society.
We think our problems are always above other people’s problems, because we think we are better than others.
Starting over is the decision to start a new journey to the lighter side of life.
When starting over, embarrassment and pride should be put aside as you seek avenues of help from those around you.
You must accept that even though a new step has been taken, there will still be faults.
Embracing your failures at times is what makes you learn from your mistakes.
If you are a matriculant who has been struggling through the year, this is the time to focus on all the errors you have made and learn from them for your June exam.
Finally, start each day with a new attitude and plenty of gratitude.
